Me Me Me is not love. You you us us is. Infants and young children survive because older children and adults give them what they need. Growing up and adulthood is taking care of those younger. Love is taking care of the other before oneself.
Couples in trouble come to me for couples/marriage counseling. They are quarreling about many things, mostly because the other is not giving them what they want. I have to set them straight in the beginning. “Love is putting your mate first, you second. Me me me is not love.”
What is to keep one from taking advantage by demanding that the other take care of his or her needs first? It is up to the one to put the other first. If one says, “You are not putting me first like Lane says,” then you are back to me me me.
I put you first, you put me first. I make life easier and happier for you, you make life easier and happier for me. My mind is always thinking of what I can do to make you happier and you me. That is love. Even better, that is selfless love, the best there is. That prevents the me me me that is not love. Got it?
Consultations cost nothing and the relief is priceless! Be good to yourself
Lane A Stokes, LPC CounselingServicesAtlanta.com 404-487-1956
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