When Parents Bully
Years ago I wrote an article entitled “Bullying—the New Rape”. It got lots of attention. Part of the reasoning was that bullying was actually worse than rape. Rape is a one-time occurrence that can alter a person’s life forever. The victim can spend the remainder of life trying to adjust to the damages. Bullying is much worse because it continues to happen sometimes every day for years by a large number of bullies. Victims are reduced to personal attributes such as feeling helpless or hopeless in situations that demand decision, and often feel an all-pervasive sadness that often leads to hopelessness and suicide. They experience over and over the paralyzing actions of all the emotions that were felt during the actual bullying as well as those that occur in memories of those occurrences years or decades later. These repetitions produce “Conditioning” which is a type of psychological or mental control over the victim that prevent success in any number of tasks required during one’s life.
So imagine what happens when the bully is the mother or father of a child. Every day of that child’s life he or she is conditioned to fail, to feel sad and discouraged and to express all of life as negative. Are you bullying your own child?
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