Success for Couples
Success for couples in relationship or marriage was my principal focus for 34 years. When I was certain that I had learned how to save marriages and make them so easy through the Eight Steps, new challenges presented themselves. First came a new form of Emotional Communication and from that came my understanding of producing success by manipulating emotions. This success could be attained in many forms. Examples are making money, breaking athletic records, increasing sales, building businesses, etc. The rest of this page will explain more about using these new success principals for relationship. The next page will explain using emotions to make money, break records, etc.
Relationships, especially marriages, are very complex due to how emotions are expressed and used. Couples will often not talk through problems when feeling happy. They will wait until feeling angry to hash out painful subjects, often just before bed when feeling depressed or sad. Then, when one starts the conversation, one or both might fall into feeling helpless or hopeless to stop any progress from being made. There is seldom ever just one emotion involved in a conversation. How can they expect progress to be made? Many times they do not want progress even when they think or say they do. One could use feeling happy to express sadness or anger to express helplessness. The other hears helplessness but never anger or sadness. How can a couple possibly understand their attempts of communication with so many different emotions being expressed or acted upon?
Good communication results from identifying which emotion is being expressed by whom and for what purpose. That’s three puzzles right there. This is why one must get professional help in understanding who is saying what and why. There is no such thing as a simple statement. There never has been. Emotions control every facet of our lives and must be understood. Contact Lane Stokes at CounselingServicesAtlanta.com to learn more.