Stored Feelings Therapy
Traditional or Rogerian Therapy was too slow 20 years ago but by 2017 couples were choosing divorce for relief rather than Rogerian’s slowness. The Rogerian theory stated that when a therapist listened intently to a client, the client could decide what the issue was and how to resolve it. It is still regarded as the “Gold Standard” and used by the great majority of counselors. I got tired of it long before 2017 and began using a form of resolving marital issues a lot quicker. Recently, that method of resolving issues has evolved into resolving feelings, which is even faster. The theory of this new method is that what we have experienced is really not as important as what we feel. Clients have long hated having to tell their life’s story or reveal personal secrets to each therapist seen. With this new therapy they do not have to tell all. They simply identify feelings that are bothering them and we work together to stop the feeling caused by the emotion.
This new therapy is only for those in serious emotional pain who want fast relief. While it is based on momentum as that of resolving issues, those choosing to use it must work as hard as the therapist to name the feelings and learn how to stop them from causing pain. The driver of this method is not empathy, but the therapist’s ability to feel whatever pain the client is feeling so that he/she may draw on his/her personal resources to help in the process. It seems selfish in that the therapy provides for the therapist’s pain to be resolved quickly, but it is pain gotten from the client. Clients are required to meet with the therapist weekly or in case of sickness or some emergency, at least have a phone or video session. If the client fails to meet with the therapist, that therapist has the option to change the treatment to resolution of issues or terminate the counseling relationship. This option usually depends on the number of bothersome feelings displayed by the client.
Another difference is that the fee is paid in advance whether or not the client meets with the therapist or not. In other words, cancellation or rescheduling is not allowed. The fee is paid in advance to cover the work the therapist does in preparation for the session. Therefore, this therapy is not advisable for those with variable work or personal schedules, but for those who will be able to meet the same time and day every week.