Lack of Talking Skills
The lack of skills in talking through issues. We all know how to talk by opening our mouths and letting out sounds that are shaped by letters. Most of us believe that we can have a perfectly happy marriage by our existing skills of articulation. But communication in marriage is far more complicated than chatting. In marriage we are attempting to merge two different people into the mystical union of the two becoming one. That takes patience, the willingness to listen, and the ability to hear between the lines, the unconditional ability to love when the other is upsetting us. Most couples fail miserably at just these few when in an argument. They run away literally or figuratively by shutting down and that is not part of the skill of talking through difficult issues that make one feel hurt or angry. You need to call a Marriage Counselor.