Understanding and controlling your emotions will most likely be the most important thing you will ever do.
What emotion are you feeling right now? That emotion is controlling what you think, feel and do. When that emotion changes to another minutes or hours later, what you think, feel and do will change. In fact, every time your emotion changes, so does what you think, feel and do. Your life could be a roller-coaster if you cannot identify and control your emotions.
Can you identify your emotions as they happen? The great majority can not. Emotions are not what we have been taught that they are. You might think that if your emotion is joy, you will smile and laugh. Perhaps you think of anger as your jaw and fists clenching. Sadness would be a lump in your throat and maybe tears. No, the ways we have been taught to identify them cannot be universal. Emotions are as different for individuals as their life experiences. When we teach our classes on identifying and controlling emotions I am most often surprised at how individuals define their emotions. Week after week those definitions change. Many of these changes are caused by memories and emotions stored in the unconscious mind. Some current event triggers them and suddenly they displace current emotions seamlessly so that the individual believes that his or her emotion is caused by the present event. Because of triggering, can you identify your emotions as they happen? No. Your emotions are seldom what you believe them to be. And remember, whatever the emotion you have at any one moment determines what you think, feel and do in that moment. Seem complicated? You are correct.
We teach a course in which you will learn how to identify each emotion as it occurs. More importantly, we teach how certain events and emotions trigger each other. You will know what your dominant emotion is, the one that generally controls you. In relationship to another, you will learn how to identify the dominant emotion by the way that person feels, thinks and acts and he/she you. Your emotions will no longer be the mystery they are now. You will learn to control them and therefore control the way you live. The course is educational and not counseling. We therefore can teach it in any state and country unlike our counseling which we can only provide in the State of Georgia USA. The cost is currently $2000 and takes ten weeks to complete.
I learned a long time ago that what we want doesn’t matter. The fact is, we already have what we want because our emotions have decided for us. To have something else, you learn to control your emotions to give it to you. How many people do you know who have been divorced? Maybe I should ask how many couples you know who have not gotten a divorce. That would be the smaller number. Want a better love relationship? Learn to identify and control your emotions. How many people do you know who hate their jobs? They need to identify and control their emotions. How many want more money, finer home, more security ? They must change the way they feel, think and act.
Want to double your income in sales? Here’s the problem: You put on a happy face and talk with positive enthusiasm and the person hangs up or walks away. Why? That prospective buyer did not consciously detect something that confused, but felt something was off. What happened? Your words of presentation did not match your true emotions of say, sadness or anger. If the salesperson knew he felt angry, he could have expressed anger instead of that phony joy and made the sale. I trained a man once who tried being his angry self and he tripled his sales. His emotion and words were congruent. You cannot hide what you feel.
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