The defining word for adults is “change”. The adult body and mind is in a constant state of change. From age 18 when adolescents are considered adult, transitions take place pertaining to colleges attended, jobs, engagements, marriages. With those physical transitions come mental ones as self-identities change, interests change, body images change, the prefrontal cortex closes around age 25, women begin noticing first wrinkles and sags and become preoccupied with keeping up their appearances and holding onto their marriages. Men and women begin building their careers past college, get married, raise children work hard for several years until menopause threatens sexual identities, aging sets in, careers change. Men and women and children are in a constant state of change and each must adjust to own and others changes.
The Eight Step method of relationships/marriages described in the book The Big White Dog with Green Eyes makes so many of the changes during the adult years much easier to navigate. Besides making it easier to communicate with others, the steps also help the individual feel better about him or herself. Once these new skills are learned and practiced enough, they actually replace all the old less effective skills learned while growing up. Then when a new crisis occurs, these new skills act automatically to resolve the new issues seamlessly.